https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.comEssays on hormones, blast beats, and questionable life decisionsenhttps://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/same-song-different-violence/https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/same-song-different-violence/Tue, 29 Sep 2026 00:00:00 GMTA quieter cover of a familiar song changed what I heard in it. That gives me a way to think about femininity, pretty nails, loud guitars, and making room for softness.https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/stones-at-the-edge-of-the-infinite/https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/stones-at-the-edge-of-the-infinite/Mon, 28 Sep 2026 00:00:00 GMTI don't want to go back and fix my younger self. Music, memory, and an image of a child on a beach help me think about the life still beyond what I can see.https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/flesh-worth-keeping/https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/flesh-worth-keeping/Sat, 26 Sep 2026 00:00:00 GMTFor a long time, looking after my body meant keeping it running. Transition made me want to live in it, care for it, and see what comes next—even when the upkeep is a pain in the ass.https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/no-funeral-for-the-living/https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/no-funeral-for-the-living/Thu, 24 Sep 2026 14:37:54 GMTComing out to my partner and children meant finding words for something I could barely explain to myself. It also brought questions about the life we’d built, the armour I’d worn, and what people mean by grief.https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/once-the-shell-breaks/https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/once-the-shell-breaks/Wed, 23 Sep 2026 20:17:37 GMTAfter years of finding reasons to think about gender later, I approached transition with doubt, a need for answers, and an escape hatch firmly installed.https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/the-radio-was-always-static/https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/the-radio-was-always-static/Wed, 23 Sep 2026 18:23:16 GMTBigger feelings sound lovely until the kids need you and there’s no volume knob. An untuned radio, a need for answers, and a sample size of one help me describe the emotional terrain of transition.https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/death-metal-was-never-boy-shit/https://deathmetalandgirlshit.tashabits.com/posts/death-metal-was-never-boy-shit/Wed, 23 Sep 2026 17:14:18 GMTDeath metal, D&D, computers, horror: I loved the things that supposedly made my gender questions harder to explain. Somewhere between blast beats and black lace, I started examining the rules I’d been using against myself.